Before my child was diagnosed with ADHD – before it was really even on my radar – I thought he was an extremely defiant and naughty child. Well, he certainly LOOKED defiant and naughty!

I’ll never forget the day I was speaking with a child therapist on the phone and she asked me whether I was considering a possible diagnosis of ADHD. I responded that it hadn’t crossed my mind — I thought we were dealing with anxiety and… NAUGHTINESS!

“Well,” the therapist explained, “the ‘naughty’ behaviors you are describing to me seem to be incredibly impulsive. Like he’s not planning or premeditating his poor choices, he’s just doing them. No thought — just action.”

“And,” she continued, “this ability to pause and think about the appropriate response in any given situation is a developmental skill that is delayed in children with ADHD. Unlike other children, kids with ADHD can’t yet pause to reflect on past experiences in order to inform the present situation. Impulsivity takes over. They end up doing whatever their most basic instincts tell them to do.”

Whoa. World rocked. Perspective changed.

Well, in the 1960s and 1970s a well-known experiment called the Marshmallow Test was conducted and it provides an INCREDIBLE dramatization of impulsivity — and impulse control — at its finest. {You can find a loose, and humorous re-enactment of the test here:}.

Most people, however, forget to tell you about THE most important aspect of the Marshmallow Test!

Watch and listen as I reveal THE MOST important aspect of this test, and three ways you can incorporate the teachings of this test into your lives!

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